“They may not deserve forgiveness, but we
may need to give it in order to heal.”

I’ve been told time and time again that in order to heal, you have to forgive. For the longest time, I’ve been trying to figure out if such a thing is even possible. To truly forgive someone that took so much of you for so long. They may not deserve forgiveness, but our hearts may need to give it in order to heal right. So, if that’s true, and we can’t forgive, even for our own sake, does that mean we are the damaged goods everyone believe us to be, or does it make us human? Flawed?

© Sarah Doughty

It’s okay to take your time
to heal and forgive.

10 thoughts on “Impossibilities”

  1. Every different thing has a different forgiveness time. Every person takes different amounts of time to forgive. Yes, I believe that forgiveness is crucial to move on. However, it is totally up to you when and how it will be possible.

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  2. Well said. I agree it does make us human and it takes time to heal. I do think eventually if we don’t let go of hate it gets turned inward and hurts only us. It isn’t always easy you are right about that. Have a blessed weekend Sara. Love 💕 Joni


    1. I wouldn’t say hate, that’s a rather strong word. Forgiveness would, to me, feel like telling someone it’s okay for the wrong they have done — and no longer being burdened by it. Given that I have complex PTSD as a direct result of what this person did to me, I don’t think it would be fair to give forgiveness, when I can’t be free of the burdens I am living with now.

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  3. Forgiveness is a “tough” subject to discuss. What does it really mean to “forgive” someone? I give up trying to do that long ago; I felt it was a red herring. I went looking for something else that I could understand. I found compassion. If I learn compassion, then ultimately become compassion, all the other stuff like “love” and “forgiveness” and “charity” and… and… and… all the good stuff we’re supposed to want to do as opposed to fighting and warring, has to be covered by it. Compassion is a force within us we can awaken and use if we so choose. It isn’t complicated and it doesn’t have a host of definitions. An act is either compassionate or it is not whereas love, or forgiveness, have so many meanings and they can take so much out of us. Compassion is energy; it does not suck from our spirit, mind of body and it is never reciprocal. It’s always my choice to be compassionate and I don’t need anyone to act the same towards me. It makes no difference to the outcome.

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