I think our past influences what we do in the present, but I don’t think it determines who we’ll forever be. For example, I wouldn’t call a person who recovered from an addiction an addict (I don’t even like the term “recovered addict”). But this might just be me.
Anyway, awesome micro as usual! I really love the ones that make me think 😃.
I’ve been thinking about this very idea lately, and I think there is a difference between remembering something and carrying the burden of it. You don’t have to carry the burden of something to remember it. I think healing starts when we learn to set it down and continue our journey without making it the focus of our life.
My burden is that I’ve lost a number of people who I love (I don’t say loved, because I still love them even if they’re not here), and several of them in a short time period. My sister once told me that I am more than a person who has lost people. The loss is something that happened to me, but it is not what or who I am. But more than that, I couldn’t let it become everything that I am. From that, I took on the fake it until you make it approach that you and I were talking about the other day. I didn’t know what it would feel like to feel hope and healed from the situation, so I started imaging what it might look like or feel like. And I think that was the first step to healing. I no longer feel like I’m at the bottom of a well with no way out. I’m not healed, but I’m better than where I was (most days anyway).
When I think of how long we sometimes carry these burdens, I realize how long it will probably take to readjust our thinking and get to a place where we don’t have to remind ourselves that we’re okay now.
Good observation. Only fools pay no attention to their past, thus reenacting their mistakes ever and anon. Also, as seems evident in your poem, we do relive past events and they do affect how we perform now. We know what happened to us and that most certainly shapes our current thinking and interaction with others. If the past did not define us, no one who’s ever been broken into would care to buy better insurance, or install security systems on their homes. Examples of how the past defines us are endless. This brings up something that I worked out: there is no “now” or “present” – only our past, including that last second that ticked by – and what we can extrapolate into the future. The present is like a line, or a dot, separating past and future. There is nothing in the actual present since it contains no time frame. Those who advocate living “in the now” are just so full of it! 🙂
Wow! This is like a punch to the gut, and one I can completely relate to Sarah. You continually amaze me with your talent for putting so much into so few words!
You can let the fear consume you or turn it around and let it fuel you! You got this 🙂 Flightministries.com
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Thank you so much!
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On point!
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The rhetorical question leaves much thoughts to be desired. Anand Bose from Kerala
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Thank you so much. 😊
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SO true…
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I think our past influences what we do in the present, but I don’t think it determines who we’ll forever be. For example, I wouldn’t call a person who recovered from an addiction an addict (I don’t even like the term “recovered addict”). But this might just be me.
Anyway, awesome micro as usual! I really love the ones that make me think 😃.
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The past doesn’t define you but that doesn’t mean it ceases to affect you. Be strong. We all fear an unknown and uncertain future.
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..our power to overcome past experiences might be what defines us..
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You’re right. I’m doing the best I can. But I haven’t given up.
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keep it up..it takes time and determination. Maybe a new experience will help.
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😦
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Thank you.
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I’ve been thinking about this very idea lately, and I think there is a difference between remembering something and carrying the burden of it. You don’t have to carry the burden of something to remember it. I think healing starts when we learn to set it down and continue our journey without making it the focus of our life.
My burden is that I’ve lost a number of people who I love (I don’t say loved, because I still love them even if they’re not here), and several of them in a short time period. My sister once told me that I am more than a person who has lost people. The loss is something that happened to me, but it is not what or who I am. But more than that, I couldn’t let it become everything that I am. From that, I took on the fake it until you make it approach that you and I were talking about the other day. I didn’t know what it would feel like to feel hope and healed from the situation, so I started imaging what it might look like or feel like. And I think that was the first step to healing. I no longer feel like I’m at the bottom of a well with no way out. I’m not healed, but I’m better than where I was (most days anyway).
When I think of how long we sometimes carry these burdens, I realize how long it will probably take to readjust our thinking and get to a place where we don’t have to remind ourselves that we’re okay now.
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Yeah, I understand. I’ve learned what most of my triggers are, but sometimes I’m hit with something that makes me spiral.
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I wish I had an answer for you, but all I have I’d a hug 🙂
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I’d = is
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I understand, thank you for the comfort.
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Yes!!
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Thanks, love. And thank you for the share.
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You’re welcome ❤
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Sarah says it best!
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I feel like that too, really often. Simple but true.
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Yeah, I understand. The key is knowing you aren’t alone.
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Good observation. Only fools pay no attention to their past, thus reenacting their mistakes ever and anon. Also, as seems evident in your poem, we do relive past events and they do affect how we perform now. We know what happened to us and that most certainly shapes our current thinking and interaction with others. If the past did not define us, no one who’s ever been broken into would care to buy better insurance, or install security systems on their homes. Examples of how the past defines us are endless. This brings up something that I worked out: there is no “now” or “present” – only our past, including that last second that ticked by – and what we can extrapolate into the future. The present is like a line, or a dot, separating past and future. There is nothing in the actual present since it contains no time frame. Those who advocate living “in the now” are just so full of it! 🙂
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I always love your philosophical input. It gives new perspective and helps redefine what we know.
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Wow! This is like a punch to the gut, and one I can completely relate to Sarah. You continually amaze me with your talent for putting so much into so few words!
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Aw thank you, love. It’s not easy. I just wish I could figure out why.
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Hard hitting 😵
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