two sides
to every
but there’s
a middle

There’s two sides to every situation, but there’s often a middle ground. You have the ability to place yourself anywhere you want on that spectrum. Be a victim, be a survivor. Be somewhere in between, if you’re not certain. Just know that no matter where you land, you’re not the only one there.

Β© Sarah Doughty


24 thoughts on “Spectrums”

  1. I really like the message that you’re not alone wherever you land on the spectrum. I also have been thinking about spectrums a lot lately and even wrote about how there’s a spectrum that writers fall on with their level of confidence about their writing in my post today. Anyway, I love it when I see repeating themes because the message resonates more with me, and makes me feel like I really need to be paying attention to it.

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    1. I didn’t see it in my reader but I just read it. For some reason, comments are turned off, so I’ll respond here, since you brought up the subject. I think spectrums are everywhere, involving a great many things. When I started down this path of sharing my writing, I did it with the “fake it till you make it” idea in mind. I’d never been published professionally before, outside of a few random pieces in high school and university. But I wanted people to know I was serious about what I was doing. Now, my confidence was very low, however, showing that vulnerability wouldn’t quite be faking it, would it? So I kept my head high and pushed through the anxiety that came with every post. Eventually, as I worked on my first novel, and my number of followers was growing, that anxiety eased. Eventually, it stopped. Several published (albeit free e-books only) books later, I feel I can safely say that I’m a writer now. However, my confidence level hadn’t really changed much. Sure, I can see when people are just starting out, or if English isn’t their first language, but that doesn’t mean they can’t grow and learn. And when people do approach me, often on Instagram’s DM, they ask for advice or help because they see me as an authority figure. Or that I’m famous. A household name. But I’m no Stephen King. Even he still says he’s the “literary equivalent of a cheeseburger and fries.” If that’s true, I’m the moldy cheese underneath a toddler’s carseat in a minivan. I don’t think I’m better than anyone else, and I certainly don’t put myself in the category of being pretentious. There are several writers on Instagram that share parody pieces that is not only meant to insult readers, but the writers with a similar style. I cannot stand it when people do this. Art is subjective and not everyone is going to love a writer’s work. The same goes for Stephen King. Or J.K. Rowling. I see no reason why I should think I’ve hit some arbitrary milestone that makes me better than anyone else.

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      1. It was such a pleasure to read about your journey, Sarah. I myself have used the fake it until you make it technique. I used to have little panic attacks every time a new post went out (okay, they really weren’t so little). Heck, I even used to have panic attacks when I’d leave a comment on someone else’s blog, worried they’d take what I said the wrong way. But eventually, I realized that my efforts are always pointed toward encouraging and supporting other writers, and at the end of the day, how can I feel bad about that?
        Art is subjective, and people will be drawn to different types of work. I think that’s why it’s so important to encourage each writer so that all these different types of voices find a home, and each type of reader will find the writer who speaks the story they can relate to.
        I think confidence in some aspects of writing come naturally over time and a writer becomes more comfortable, and I don’t think that confidence could be mistaken for overconfidence or pretentiousness. I also don’t think anyone could possibly mistaken you for pretentious, Sarah. I see how your vulnerability speaks to so many people and your kindness and consideration for others is always present.
        I enjoyed your engaging comment. I hope you have a lovely evening. πŸ™‚

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  2. That brings up two old sayin’s… From the journalist: “There’s three sides to every story: yours, mine, and the facts.” And the classic, from the politician: “My mind’s made up, don’t confuse me with facts.”

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