Hmm, maybe it is our pain that defines us more than the good. Or it’s what we define as good that allows us to use our pain in some constructive way. Neither of the characters we just mentioned had much of an outlet.
Very telling… Which does raise the question… Are the experiences what make it all worthwhile.. It always makes me think you.. Do you throw your self into different experience for the sake of growth.. Or can you grow without tragedy.. Can you grow without the highs and lows of life… I don’t know.. But it always makes me wonder..
I love how the feeling in this piece could either be pride or grief, either weakness or strength. All depending on how the reader wants to interpret it. 🙂
Yes, exactly! It’s mixed bag of emotions for me. There’s not a day that goes by that I wonder what could have been different if those things didn’t happen to me. But they did. I may struggle now, but I have my books, I have my husband and son. Would they have been possible without it? These are questions that hit me sometimes.
A lot of angst in this but there has to be truth in it. We’re all shaped, whether we like it or not by our experiences and sometimes that will not be for the best. Powerful piece
Thank you so much. I’ve heard countless stories of people growing up to repeat the kinds of abuses that were inflicted on them. I’m not sure why, either, unless somewhere along the way they started to lose their grasp on morality.
!?!?!?!?!?!#*#&*#*%&*!!!??? … 🙂 This is either the silliest, or the most damning truth I’ve ever read! Are you tired of reading “amazing” in your comments? Well, sorry but here’s one more: amazing!
Violation was part of it. I endured just about every kind of abuse imaginable on a daily basis. To say that I grew up without losing my morality, where so many others have done in the past, must be a victory in itself.
It definitely is. I write about so much sad and deep experiences because I can empathize with people that have been in such situations. You on the other hand have actually been there and have overcome. Your content is such a blessing Sarah
There is, but also isn’t. If you consider the kind of abuse I endured, it could have been so easy for me to become like him, but I didn’t. Now, I’m not going to send my thanks to him either. But it does make you wonder a little.
It is ironic. So many people that experienced something similar to my past have grown up to lack morality of their own and tend to victimize others. Yet for me, it did the complete opposite.
Sarah Doughty 
Manipulation as a response, or a first move? It determines the difference between strength and hollowness.
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I was manipulated in many ways. I resisted as best I could, however.
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I think many a villain may have used these exact same words.
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I wouldn’t be surprised. There’s not many natural born villains without some kind of influence.
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Richard III from Shakespeare’s play pretty much said, “Everyone loathes me and my hunchback, so I’m going to be what they fear.”
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Yes, there’s that too. The same could be said about Shrek and his status as an ogre.
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Hmm, maybe it is our pain that defines us more than the good. Or it’s what we define as good that allows us to use our pain in some constructive way. Neither of the characters we just mentioned had much of an outlet.
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That’s very true.
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Send that to Donald Trump.
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Ugh, yeah, it’d probably result in me being added to some terrorist watch list. 😆
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lol. welcome to le club.
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There’s bound to be a terrorist exclusive golf resort around, right? 😆😆
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Reblogged this on Therapy Bits and commented:
This was so powerful! Thank you for putting into words so eloquently my experience. xx
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Aw thank you so much for the honor! 😊
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Very powerful. We are all what our experiences make us.
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Indeed. Thank you! 😊
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Very telling… Which does raise the question… Are the experiences what make it all worthwhile.. It always makes me think you.. Do you throw your self into different experience for the sake of growth.. Or can you grow without tragedy.. Can you grow without the highs and lows of life… I don’t know.. But it always makes me wonder..
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I wonder the same things myself. They’re good questions to ponder.
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yes. braver. bolder. stronger. ❤
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😊😊💖
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We are, who we are.
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Indeed. 💕
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Well said.
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Thank you!
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Reblogged this on NOT MY SECRET…overcoming the shame of sexual abuse and commented:
Reblog: wow!!!!
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That was an awesome poem
Post here!
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Thank you, my friend! 😊
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Your welcome
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A thought provoking post, as always. Profound.
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Thank you, love.
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I was reading your piece
and while doing that I knew, right away,
that by the end of it my mind will be blown!
Fine words,
Great work! 🙂
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Thank you so much. This is one of those types of pieces that I just need to spill.
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Cue the angst! This is deep and amazing.
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Thank you! It’s quite a conundrum. 😊💕
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You’re most welcome! 🙂
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I love how the feeling in this piece could either be pride or grief, either weakness or strength. All depending on how the reader wants to interpret it. 🙂
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Yes, exactly! It’s mixed bag of emotions for me. There’s not a day that goes by that I wonder what could have been different if those things didn’t happen to me. But they did. I may struggle now, but I have my books, I have my husband and son. Would they have been possible without it? These are questions that hit me sometimes.
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“Would they have been possible without it?” Maybe yes. Maybe no. Who can really say?
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Very true. 💕
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A poignant truth. Beautiful ❤
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Thank you, love! 😊
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I love that my screen size/resolution is such that I had to scroll down to get to the end of this poem. It created a twist that carried a real punch.
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That is an interesting perspective. I didn’t think about how having to scroll would be more impactful. Thank you for sharing! 😊
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a little dark, but realistic, and poised. Well written. Kiddos! 😉
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Thank you so much! 😊
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I feel you on this one :)Teresa
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Thank you so much!
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A lot of angst in this but there has to be truth in it. We’re all shaped, whether we like it or not by our experiences and sometimes that will not be for the best. Powerful piece
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Thank you so much. I’ve heard countless stories of people growing up to repeat the kinds of abuses that were inflicted on them. I’m not sure why, either, unless somewhere along the way they started to lose their grasp on morality.
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!?!?!?!?!?!#*#&*#*%&*!!!??? … 🙂 This is either the silliest, or the most damning truth I’ve ever read! Are you tired of reading “amazing” in your comments? Well, sorry but here’s one more: amazing!
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Aww thank you! I don’t know if I’d call it silly, but it does make you wonder a bit, when you strip everything down to its base parts.
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Violation? This is deep
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Violation was part of it. I endured just about every kind of abuse imaginable on a daily basis. To say that I grew up without losing my morality, where so many others have done in the past, must be a victory in itself.
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It definitely is. I write about so much sad and deep experiences because I can empathize with people that have been in such situations. You on the other hand have actually been there and have overcome. Your content is such a blessing Sarah
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Thank you so much for those kind words. I often don’t feel like I’ve overcome my past, but every day I try to improve.
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Time to transcend your existence…
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That is a work in progress. Thank you!
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Oh love it! Many buttons pushed… You’re so good! 🙂
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Thank you! 😊
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Ahhh ohhh..there’s angst..
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There is, but also isn’t. If you consider the kind of abuse I endured, it could have been so easy for me to become like him, but I didn’t. Now, I’m not going to send my thanks to him either. But it does make you wonder a little.
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It indeed made me wonder now…but whatever it is you have endured or been through..it is obvious you are at your best now..😊😊
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I still have a long way to go, but I try every day to do better.
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That’s really wonderful Sara..😊😊
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Thank you! 😊
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Ouch! But it is a question I have asked myself- how much has the pain in my life shaped me into a person of empathy and compassion. Ironic, isn’t it?
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It is ironic. So many people that experienced something similar to my past have grown up to lack morality of their own and tend to victimize others. Yet for me, it did the complete opposite.
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I get the impression we may have similar backgrounds. But an offline discussion perhaps. . .
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I understand. I’m always open to having those conversations. No one deserves to think they’re alone.
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Indeed.
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