Perhaps. Is that how you see it? The idea came to me, and I know it’s been touched on so many times before, but it seems this happens to almost everyone.
3-times divorced gives a certain insightful perspective… Too bad I didn’t know enough about friendship to hold it at that and not let myself get talked into the “relationships”. Now though I have 3 life-long friends. It took work to get it turned around, and the “S” thing, so overrated (IMO), had to get out of the picture. Friendship is a whole lot less complicated and it doesn’t care if it’s “us,” “you and me,” or “you guys”! I think that what happens in a romantic relationship is that the mind starts to long for the freedom she had before she got enmeshed in an exclusive relationship – exceptions, however rare, noted.
Excellent, Sarah. I recently submitted a story to a contest with a line around that same concept. “Back when we were an ‘us’ and a ‘we,’ instead of a ‘you’ and ‘I.'”
There’s actually a communication theory that explores how the subtle shift of the use of terms like “we” and “us” to the use of “I” and “me” is a strong indicator of the deterioration of a relationship. What’s interesting is that people usually aren’t consciously choosing to use the different terms. I think it’s one of those things that we become aware of in hindsight.
I like this, Sarah. Very deep and insightful and, unfortunately, I can so relate. Nicely done.
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Thank you so much! I’m sorry that you do.
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All part of life…eh?
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Indeed it is.
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Such heartwarming work!
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Aww thank you!
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No problem!
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Direct, deep and beautiful! Loved it Sarah! Stay happy and blessed dear.
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Thank you so much! 😊
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Powerful. Love it.
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Thank you! 😊
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Simple, beautiful and heart touching sarah…
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Thank you so much!
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Beautiful 😊
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Thank you!
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Let me guess, when the fires of passion died down and the relationship became a convenience?
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Perhaps. Is that how you see it? The idea came to me, and I know it’s been touched on so many times before, but it seems this happens to almost everyone.
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3-times divorced gives a certain insightful perspective… Too bad I didn’t know enough about friendship to hold it at that and not let myself get talked into the “relationships”. Now though I have 3 life-long friends. It took work to get it turned around, and the “S” thing, so overrated (IMO), had to get out of the picture. Friendship is a whole lot less complicated and it doesn’t care if it’s “us,” “you and me,” or “you guys”! I think that what happens in a romantic relationship is that the mind starts to long for the freedom she had before she got enmeshed in an exclusive relationship – exceptions, however rare, noted.
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That’s a good point. I suppose that’s why they call it the seven year itch.
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I missed this..back on the site and nice to catch up..this particular post,I think many can identify at some point in their lives..
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Thank you, Arthur! And welcome back!
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Probably when you stopped saying “I me me, my.”
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That reminds me of a singer warming up. Haha. 😆
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Beautiful words.
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Thank you so much! 😊
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A thought provoking and excellent poem Sarah. I think it sums up how relationships can morph if people take things for granted.
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That’s very true. Sometimes it’s a subtle shift and it’s not noticed until things are well on their way to destruction.
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Agreed Sarah. Hopefully, experience helps us to see the pitfalls when they appear again.
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Yes, I agree. 😊
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*sighs* ❤ ❤
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😊💖😊
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OOOOoooh!
It’s chilly out here!
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😊😊 Thank you! 😊
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So true! Nice piece
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Thank you! 😊
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Excellent, Sarah. I recently submitted a story to a contest with a line around that same concept. “Back when we were an ‘us’ and a ‘we,’ instead of a ‘you’ and ‘I.'”
There’s actually a communication theory that explores how the subtle shift of the use of terms like “we” and “us” to the use of “I” and “me” is a strong indicator of the deterioration of a relationship. What’s interesting is that people usually aren’t consciously choosing to use the different terms. I think it’s one of those things that we become aware of in hindsight.
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That’s a good point. I’ve seen that happen before with others. Thank you for sharing and best of luck with your contest! 😊
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Thank you! I’ll need it.
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Beautiful. Simple, elegant, thoughtful, and too often true.
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Thank you! 😊 😊
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Have to call them as I see them 🙂 Your poetry is amazing pretty much always.
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I appreciate that! I know this one is a bit of a trope or cliché, but I felt drawn to share it anyway. 😊
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Enjoyed all the same! 🙂
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Thank you for endulging me. 😊😊
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Your so sweet, I so enjoy your company, even though it’s a few words here and there, your a keeper. I enjoy you so much.
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Aww that makes me smile. 🙂
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Good evening 🐞
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To you too! 😊
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We think alike. I have written something similar about “us” then “you and me”. Like it.
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I know it’s a little bit of a trope these days, but I felt like I needed to write if. Thanks, love! 😊
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Oh, relationships…
I really enjoyed this, Sarah!
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Thank you so much! 😊
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This is simple yet so deep Sarah ! Thanks so much.
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Thank you for reading! 😊
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You are welcome Sarah 🙂
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Lovely!!!
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Aw thank you!
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Welcome 😊
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