In the last article, I talked about reader dramatics. Now, I’m going to cover conflict among peers.
I know my choices are not what most would consider, let alone implement, but that’s okay. Writers can choose whatever path works for them. I hold no grudges towards anyone for their choices, just as I hope no one does for me. Sharing everything for free is what works for me.
But writers all share a commonality. Our online exposure helps us find readers. Unfortunately, one of the downsides is that we don’t always encourage and support one another.
The drama writers can stir up is worse than a high school filled with exploding PMS. It’s best to avoid them as much as possible, especially when friends are battling each other.
Pretending nothing is happening is the best course of action. But, every now and again, someone will try to pull others in on purpose. The key is to back out before they do any damage.
But then there’s strangers or people who are not at all who you thought they were. They could be feeling a wide array of emotions, such as jealousy at (or threatened by) what you do, angry they can’t do it, a belief that their talent is superior, or they’re somehow repulsed at your thinking, beliefs, or life choices.
Whatever the core reason, they’re miserable and feel like this behavior will somehow empower them, while belittling someone else. If I see it happening, or someone starts to bully me, I don’t engage. I block them.
But sometimes, I notice writers talking in general about how “some” will do something they feel is wrong or an insult to the craft. Unless they start mentioning people by name (especially if my name is dropped among the list, which, luckily, doesn’t happen often), I’ll treat it as though I never saw it. Engaging in a debate often results in a war between the writers, and any readers that want to jump in to defend their beloved author.
Generally, I follow my instincts and choose the best course of action. I won’t tolerate someone attacking or spamming people that I spent a long time and effort to earn as readers. And I will defend it to the best of my abilities.
So far, WordPress continues to be free from this type of behavior, but maybe I’m one of the few that hasn’t seen it.
Tell me about your experiences with this. Do you have any thoughts to add?