I’ll be married for 33 years this year, and got married to my hubby 3 months to the day after meeting him – sorry, but it was the classic ‘eyes meeting across a crowded room’ 🙂
We’ve had our ups and downs, the downs due mostly to other people, or by health problems, but I wouldn’t swap one minute of our years together 🙂
We fell in love the night we met, but we learned to really love, and like, each other warts and all, as the years drew us closer and closer together but, yes, humour has definitely been a must for our survival as a couple – it’s helped us to laugh at things that could have broken us, and brought us all this distance on from that first meeting 🙂
What ever any of you do, please don’t give up on the other half of the human race 🙂
I couldn’t agree more. That’s a wonderful thing you have. I’ve been with my husband for fourteen years, married for eleven. Some times were difficult, but over the years we’ve only grown closer together. He proves every day that I can rely on him, and I need that the most in my life right now. Thank you for sharing.
It’s nice to know that, in a world where cynicism is rife now, there are people of my daughter’s generation who have found that true partnership – may your years together only get better 🙂
To me? I only had one love in my life actually, and she left me while I was deployed so that was kind of her. So I pretty much grew quite skeptic of it, for me love is what I see in my parents wich is that when I talk to my mother about it, how in the world a former Miss Vasc Country (yep she was one of those beauty Queens here in Spain when she was 17) and how in the world a guy (my father) who is not good looking (sorry dad) but did and does have a drive in him, no formal studies, he studied life and by himself, he “made it”, I´m going off the rail here, so point being that after 40+ years married I´m still amused when I go visit them and see how they poke fun of each other and have a laugh, can´t understand that after so many years and knowing themselves so good that they still can laugh and my father, still surprises mom, go figure that one out after so long together, so lovei blind, I guess seeing these two, plus humour seems to be quite a good asset ass well as being Smart as dad, still surprises mom with some of his things he does, and that I guess is also key, keep it flowing!!!
I think love is an emotional construct, thus temporary and evanescent. Think exhaust from a car: emotions. Love comes shooting out back there somewhere and people think they should suck on it. Then it pollutes their thinking and they go all twitterpated. Or they get to thinking that “love” is best expressed as some sort of abuse. God must really love me, he gives me all these “special” problems. My partner notices me, that’s why he beats me up: he cares. If there ever was an over-rated emotion, that’s love.
Good question. When love is temporary, I’m not sure if it’s real. To me, true love lasts forever. True love doesn’t hurt, it doesn’t leave.
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That’s exactly right. Many people don’t know the difference until it’s over.
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Love is a full time job
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Yes it is. Thank you.
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Thus far, it’s been very real but always temporary. The impermanence of it all is what makes it so bittersweet.
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So very true. Thank you.
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I’ll be married for 33 years this year, and got married to my hubby 3 months to the day after meeting him – sorry, but it was the classic ‘eyes meeting across a crowded room’ 🙂
We’ve had our ups and downs, the downs due mostly to other people, or by health problems, but I wouldn’t swap one minute of our years together 🙂
We fell in love the night we met, but we learned to really love, and like, each other warts and all, as the years drew us closer and closer together but, yes, humour has definitely been a must for our survival as a couple – it’s helped us to laugh at things that could have broken us, and brought us all this distance on from that first meeting 🙂
What ever any of you do, please don’t give up on the other half of the human race 🙂
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I couldn’t agree more. That’s a wonderful thing you have. I’ve been with my husband for fourteen years, married for eleven. Some times were difficult, but over the years we’ve only grown closer together. He proves every day that I can rely on him, and I need that the most in my life right now. Thank you for sharing.
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It’s nice to know that, in a world where cynicism is rife now, there are people of my daughter’s generation who have found that true partnership – may your years together only get better 🙂
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I sincerely hope so. 💖
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In my book love is never real….
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What is love to you then?
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To me? I only had one love in my life actually, and she left me while I was deployed so that was kind of her. So I pretty much grew quite skeptic of it, for me love is what I see in my parents wich is that when I talk to my mother about it, how in the world a former Miss Vasc Country (yep she was one of those beauty Queens here in Spain when she was 17) and how in the world a guy (my father) who is not good looking (sorry dad) but did and does have a drive in him, no formal studies, he studied life and by himself, he “made it”, I´m going off the rail here, so point being that after 40+ years married I´m still amused when I go visit them and see how they poke fun of each other and have a laugh, can´t understand that after so many years and knowing themselves so good that they still can laugh and my father, still surprises mom, go figure that one out after so long together, so lovei blind, I guess seeing these two, plus humour seems to be quite a good asset ass well as being Smart as dad, still surprises mom with some of his things he does, and that I guess is also key, keep it flowing!!!
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Then how is it that love isn’t real? Sure you had shitty luck, but it’s not to say it can never happen.
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I know, I´m just cinical
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That’s life.
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But I will tell you that I am not actually cinical, I´m not all that stupid, but I do believe in the good of the people.
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I never said you were stupid. But I am glad that what happened didn’t ruin your good heart.
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You kidding me? If I let those things to bring me down then I´m fucked, so no, did I just curse?
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Fuck, I don’t care. 😏
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Then let it be the Word…..you heard
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😂😂😂
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😉 wink wink
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😜
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haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! that was a war cry to try to scare you, i think it worked
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😱😱😱😲
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I think love is an emotional construct, thus temporary and evanescent. Think exhaust from a car: emotions. Love comes shooting out back there somewhere and people think they should suck on it. Then it pollutes their thinking and they go all twitterpated. Or they get to thinking that “love” is best expressed as some sort of abuse. God must really love me, he gives me all these “special” problems. My partner notices me, that’s why he beats me up: he cares. If there ever was an over-rated emotion, that’s love.
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I definitely agree with you. But when it’s expressed the right way, it’s a beautiful thing. 💕
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It can be both and neither one
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So true. 💕
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I’m still wondering!
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Yeah, me too, sometimes. 💕
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Interesting question. I just want it to be real.
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Me too. I often feel that it is. 💕
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Ditto! 🙂 Gorgeous write, Sarah!
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Thank you! 😊 😊
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